To Prince Charming…

              Thank you for all the memories…

                                          charlie

Charmingly Me

A simple guide to finding and keeping Prince Charming

By

Lady Cassandra Charming

Hello! Let me introduce myself…

I am Lady Cassandra Charming… Being 4357 in line for the throne I decided that in order to wear the crown I must find a Prince Charming and so that is how this book came about.

The ideas and thoughts that I share in this book have served me well…

I am now a Lady in my own right and have my own crown.

I wish the same for you…

Now

In the beginning… (Insert your name here) was wondering where her fairy godmother was when suddenly she spied this book in the library. Taking it from the shelf she hurried to her favorite reading place and with a warm beverage in hand began a magical journey that would serve her well the rest of her life!

Make this your personal book by writing your thoughts and adventures in the margins…

Your Charming Adventure begins now!

Priceless Gem 1

Wear Pink…

Men love pink… it is like flame to a moth or chocolate to us ladies… given a choice between girls wearing different colors, they will choose pink every time…

We like to look glamorous and fashionable and sometimes a bit trendy but men like pink.

I’m not sure if it’s because we look innocent or girlish or what but men love girls wearing pink.

If you learn nothing else from this book… remember the number one rule… Wear Pink!

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Wear soft fabrics…

If you are going to be around men, wear touchable fabrics. Soft and pretty.

You know how when you see something soft, a fabric, a pillow, a throw, anything soft you want to touch it? Men are the same way. When they see something soft, they want to touch it. Make sure it’s you!

Speaking of which…. If ever…

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Red blooded men like to touch women. It is one of their favorite pastimes. It is something that makes them happy. You can see by the sparkle in their eyes.

However…

If he isn’t making advances toward you, run. If he doesn’t want to touch you, find someone else. Better to be someone you have brush away occasionally than be with a cold fish.

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Wear pearls and/or lace…

This tells a man you are precious. You are a step above the rest of the girls. You are valuable.

Men take care of valuable things.

It is also romantic. Men are romantics at heart.

If you reach that place inside of a man, you have won his heart.

So get out your grandmothers pearls and lace and wear them. You will feel really posh when you do.

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Wear shoes you feel pretty in…

Don’t wear spike heels out on a date. Leave those to the trollops who get paid for their services. You want to concentrate on him, not watching where you walk.

While we are on the subject of heels, wearing heels to a formal event gives you the chance to hold onto his arm. Men like to be chivalrous… let him… you will both feel grand.

Side note… if you are wearing a glass slipper; make sure you have had a pedicure the day before.

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Never wear busy clothes!

You want him to see your beauty, not have to decide what to look at about you.

I suggest solid colors with simple or interesting accessories.

Never look like you shopped at a bazaar or a circus for that matter.

Let him be proud you are by his side.

And buy the prettiest lingerie you can afford. It may not be time for him to see it, but it will make all the difference in the way you feel, inside out.

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Simple elegant makeup beats gaudy wild colors every day of the week.

Enhanced beauty is much better than painted beauty.

If you are unsure of your best look… a trip to an upscale boutique for a makeover can do wonders for you.

(If you cannot afford the whole line, at least purchase a lipstick for their kindness.)

Every woman is beautiful… some just haven’t found their best look yet.

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Hair… One of your best features.

Your best hair color is never purple or blue. And this is the one time I will tell you NOT to wear pink.

Find a shade that is comfortable for you, if your own color is not suitable. Then find a hairstyle that is soft and feminine even if it is short.

Never have your hair so sprayed that he can’t run his fingers through it… remember the touch rule. They like touching… make sure that you are always touchable.

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Manicures and Pedicures…

Ladies, do we feel good when our nails look good or what?

It is one of the ways we really pamper ourselves.

Men like pink and red shades.

Avoid greens, blues and blacks… let other women wear them, not you. A princess has to set the standards by which other women pale in comparison.

Wear colors that make you feel pretty not bruised!

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Laugh at him.

Men love to be laughed at it. They are all little boys at heart and are looking for a lifetime playmate. Never let life get boring or tedious. It just won’t do. Laugh at him and with him and he will be by your side always.

Laugh at his jokes.

It doesn’t matter if you have heard it before, even from him. You are his audience. Make sure he knows you are entertained.

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Mind your own business.

Make yourself interesting and fun. Do things with him and without him. Never be overly concerned about what he does when he isn’t with you. He will tell you what he wants you to know. If he doesn’t, it is none of your business. However the one caveat to this gem is if he never tells you what he does then become none of his business straightaway. You want someone special in your life but it doesn’t have to be him.

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Let your eyes sparkle when you are with him.

A man can’t resist a woman who is in love with him. He thinks he is great. He will love you if you do too! The sparkle in your eyes will tell him things your lips may never whisper.

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Men like girls to be a bit saucy at times.

It is okay when you are alone to be a bit cheeky with them because it makes the male species roar a bit. When men are with us it is always a good thing for them to feel alive.  

Saucy is so much fun for us, too. Makes us girls feel a bit naughty. The warning here is to not go as far as sleazy or tacky. Make sure you keep your princess crown on, although it can tilt a bit now and again.

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Know how to prepare 4 things well.

Breakfast…

Picnic Lunch…

Dinner….

Midnight Snack…

Be prepared for amour whenever wherever it happens and be ready to serve refreshments later.

A good bottle of red wine with fruit and cheese should be a staple.

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Know about fine wines and good beers.

Wine for you, beer for him.

And always drink out of a glass, mug or goblet.

Never a can or bottle.

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Learn to speak French.

A little pretention goes a long way

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Know about cars, motorcycles and sports, so that you have something to talk about.

Don’t be an expert in these areas… know enough to ask intelligent questions but so little that you have to ask his thoughts and opinions.

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Flirt with your man.

Even after you have a relationship, make sure you are the one that is making him smile. Men love to be flirted with. Remember that is part of how you got him and that is a part of how you will keep him.

Always his playmate, never his nanny.

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Be charitable.

Find something that you can give your time, talents or money to, which cannot do anything for you.

Adopt a pet.

Visit an orphanage or senior center.

Volunteer at a mission or food bank.

Donate money or usable items to a good cause.

He will love that you care about others.

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Let him slay the dragons.

Let him kill the spiders, open tough jar lids, open doors. He is the man. Let him be. Men love to be the strong one, let him. Don’t outshine him in anything that is masculine. For example, sports. Play with your Prince but don’t be better than he is or soon, you will be playing alone. Although it’s okay to win occasionally, just to keep him on his toes. And give him a challenge.

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Common ground…

Not to be confused with commoners.

Be interested in what interest him. You don’t have to like everything he does but find things that you both like and explore them together. Make it fun and an adventure. Even stamp collecting can be fun if you know where to lick the stamp…

(And a naughty thought never goes unrewarded.)

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Three rules…

A lady in public

A joyous child in private

A trollop behind bed curtains

Follow the rules, you will have his heart, break the rules and you will have days, nights and weekends free.

Let someone else be the good cook that all the other girls like.

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Let your scent be his road to delicious.

Wear a fragrance that you love. If you don’t have a signature fragrance, search until you find the one that makes you feel special, even when you are alone. And wear it then, too.

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If your man starts telling you what you can and can’t do. It’s time to walk. Either he has lost respect for you or he thinks he owns you. Either way this isn’t the fun open relationship you want.

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You may make advances in the relationship. You may call him but next it is his turn to call you. You ask him out, next he asks you. If at any time he doesn’t return the volley, it is time to look elsewhere. If he isn’t chasing you as much as you want to chase him, he is the loser. Move on. There are plenty of men in the world. You don’t have to settle for a commoner, you are searching for a prince.

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The only games permissible in relationships are board or cards games. If you feel like he is playing any other game, you are probably right. Trust your intuition. If he is worth the game, play on but be warned. Do not at this point let him dominate you. Make sure if he is having a night out with the boys, you are too!

(No typo here.)

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Never complete with another girl for his affections. If he can’t see what a princess you are, walk away. He doesn’t deserve you.

And most importantly…

Never be jealous of an ex-girlfriend. If she was so great, he would still be with her. He is with you now. That is all you need to be concerned with. Let her be jealous of you.

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Never argue. It is unbecoming and you will lose his affections or him. You are the princess of sweetness. Once he realizes what a jerk he has been, he will see things your way. Silence is often the best solution.

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Always wear your invisible crown. It will remind you to stand up straight, to smile at your adoring public and to be kind in all situations. It will keep your words sweet and your actions pure. You may remove if for a bit of frolic with your prince. (Not too early in the game of course.)

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Love purely. Not cunningly or manipulative. Be honest and open. Your prince will trust you.

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Never gossip to him or about him. Your words must always be chartable about others. If you must release your thoughts, do so on paper and then shred shred shred.

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If he ever gets verbally or physically abusive with you, he has just asked permission to continue. Run, don’t walk away. This isn’t the first time he has done this, it won’t be the last. Make sure it isn’t with you again. There are plenty of princes out there, don’t get stuck with a dark knight.

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Don’t be afraid to love. Love is worth the risk, even if you lose. The memories of a good love will carry you through some rough spots. Don’t live with regrets or what ifs…

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Tell them and show them every day how much you love them and that you won’t let go….

Stash little love notes or candy treats in their clothes or places where they will find them unexpectantly.

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Make your bedroom a precious reflection of you. If your room is cluttered and a storage place, redecorate. Place your favorite things in there. Decorate with things that inspired you and give you a lovely feeling when you see them. Paint it a color that soothes you. . It should be your sanctuary.

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Your bathing room should be a color you enjoy and must have fluffy towels to pamper you with. It should also have a basket of your favorite soaps and some bubble bath. The counters should be shiny clean with a few things to decorate… your favorite colognes… a glass vase with some real or faux flowers… a stuff animal with a charming ribbon around its neck.  It will be a place for you to relax with a good book perhaps. Or a night of bubbles and candles with your Prince.

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When you find someone worth loving, don’t hold back; love them with everything you have. Don’t waste a minute on anything but loving your Prince Charming.

Ideas Page of things to do together….

Memories of treasured moments…

Dreams for your future together…

Gifts given and received…

Places traveled…

Best romantic memories…

This is where you find happily ever after….

The end or is it a glorious beginning…

It is up to you!